Throughout different periods of our relationship, Daddy and I haven’t lived together. For almost five months last year, we lived in different states, visiting each other when we could while sorting out a move and a new job. We weren’t expecting it so our relationship got thrown into a little bit of chaos as we both dealt with wildly new situations.
It felt like drifting in some ways, doing things day to day without his constant guidance. We tried to talk every day if we could, even if it was just a handful of texts. The situation was odd and hopefully one we won’t ever have to repeat again. Coming back together was difficult and bumpy.
I’m not sure what we’d do differently if we did have to repeat that kind of situation. Now, when he travels for work, or I go visit my family, it’s easier and less painful. We still text, I travel with the stuffies he’s given me, I still try to defer to him on some decisions. When I stay at home, he can leave me with a weekly chore list like always and expect me to behave the same as if he was home.
The dynamic has strengthened immensely and I think that’s been a key factor in how we handle distances now. We both have a very solid handle on who we are and how we interact in this relationship and it’s not something that can be turned on and off.`