How do you handle conflict now?
How do you imagine handling it in D/s?
What do you think you’ll need to do
differently in a D/s relationship?
I hate conflict.
I don’t do well with conflict and either want to solve it as quickly as possible or avoid it for the rest of my life and never acknowledge that there was an issue to begin with.
In D/s, the latter really doesn’t work. At all.
I’ve gotten better at handling conflict as my communication skills have improved and also being in a relationship where the conflict is looked at as neutrally as possible and disagreements don’t turn into a blame game or nonsense like that. (I still hate conflict though.) We try to approach everything with kindness and that the other person is coming from a place of love and not wanting to harm us. It’s difficult and has taken a lot of practice but it’s helped.
If I disagree with an order or protocol, Daddy listens to why I disagree, decides if my reasons are valid or relevant, and makes a decision on how to move on from there. I may not always like the decision but that’s something I accepted when I accepted his collar. It’s part of our dynamic. There are, of course, plenty of other times where the conflict is thoroughly discussed and we come to a solution together, but many times I’ve made the situation worse in my head and Daddy has the right to shut it down.
I don’t really think of us having a lot of conflict in our relationship. Maybe it’s because I associate the word conflict with arguments and we don’t really argue. Arguing is different than disagreeing in my eyes.