Daddy and I started as play partners so we haven’t explored kinks together from a brand new sort of perspective but in a “how can we push each other more” perspective. Since we started in play, we knew from the beginning that a lot of our kinks were compatible. Anything that we haven’t explored together is either out of a lack of skill (i.e. rope) or time.
I’m definitely a lot more shy about admitting what kinks interest me than he is but Daddy gets them out of me eventually. Being able to do that helps a lot with figuring out what we can explore together.
We’re both of the mind “try anything once” though and are open to being surprised about liking a kink. It’s better to have tried something and decide that we don’t like it than to never try something and miss out on something wonderful. We’ve discovered new things about ourselves and each other just by trying something.
Self-exploration is so important in kink and I think being willing to do so is crucial for anyone embarking on a kink journey. I really encourage new people to explore kink in different ways, even if it’s just watching people do a kink they’ve never seen before. You don’t always have to try something to know if you like it.
But the more you explore, whether that’s on your own or with a partner, the more you’ll learn about what you like and don’t like. You’ll learn about how to get off in innumerable ways and isn’t that some of what we’re after when exploring BDSM?
