I’m sure I say this every month but where did July go? The last few weeks have been busy, hot, and a slow return to my art as I work through The Artist’s Way program. I am missing coffee shops and bookstores dearly this year – my usual retreat during the hottest parts of the day in the summer since our house struggles to keep up with the 95+ degree days. But it means I spend many afternoons lounging and reading instead so here are some of my favorite things I read this month.
Exhibit A – Writing Erotica as a Man
A thoughtful insight into privilege, the erotica genre, and what it means to be a cis man in the erotica genre, I appreciated Exhibit A’s humor and approach to this topic. While it’s also a scathing take down of Sorcha Rowan and his misdeeds, the post speaks directly to the men who need to recognize that not being put on top of the heap immediately is not the same as gatekeeping.
Girl on the Net – Broke up with the man I love: can the We-Vibe Nova 2 help me forget?
GotN is a masterful writer and this review may be one of the best posts I’ve read by her. Sad, funny, thoughtful, gut twisting. It’s the most emotional, heartbreaking, satisfying sex toy review you’ll ever read.
Love, Violet – Tuned In and Turned On 24/7
Reading about others dynamics is always wonderful and insightful and often leads to me thinking about my own a little bit more. 24/7 dynamics can be hard to describe at times – I struggle with it myself – but Violet paints a beautiful picture of hers and how it is woven into the fabric of her life.
Her Puppy – Are slaves passive?
Chase and I were discussing various elements of M/s the other day and he shared this article with me. It’s a concept that many folks in the power exchange are probably familiar with – dominance is active, submission is passive. And while it’s not true in practice, it seems to persist for whatever reason – that submission is “easier” because “all you do is follow orders” when that isn’t the case. Chase’s posts reflects so many of my own feelings about slavehood and submission that I haven’t put into words on this blog yet.
The Wench Works – Red Flags: Five Signs of an Unhealthy Dominant/Submissive Relationship
I think anytime The Wench Works drops a new article it ends up on that month’s Good Reads. I just love everything that is written and shared there. Korppi’s article this month is no exception and one that anyone interested in power exchange should go read right now. There are many red flags that are unique to power dynamics and it’s important to be able to recognize them and learn what to do about them.
I also want to mention that I’ve had an article published at The Smutlancer this month! I wrote about monthly columns for blogs – why you should have them and how to develop them. You can check it out right here.
What did you read or publish this month? Drop a link in the comments below, I’m always looking for new material!