Welcome to my giant list of BDSM books! I’ve curated this list over the years of favorite reads and recommendations from others. I’ve not read every single book on this list and therefore do not endorse every single book on this list. This isn’t an all-encompassing list of every single BDSM book ever, just one of popular and useful books.
💖 – I love this book
📚 – I recommend this book
BDSM/Power Exchange
- 📚 Abernathy, Christina – Erotic Slavehood
- 📚 Blanton, Rebecca – The Big Workbook for Submissives
- Brame, Gloria – Different Loving
- 💖 📚 Cunningham, Kacie – Conquer Me – read my review here
- 📚 Easton, Dossie and Hardy, Janet – The New Bottoming Book
- 📚 Easton, Dossie and Hardy, Janet – The New Topping Book
- 💖 Flagg – The Forked Tongue
- Haberman, Hardy – Playing with Pain
- 💖 Hannah the Scribe – Service Secrets, vol. 1 and vol. 2 (ebook)
- 💖 📚 James, Andrew – The Way of the Pleasure Slave – read my review here
- 💖 Johnson, V.M. – To Love, To Obey, To Serve
- 📚 Kaldera, Raven ed. – Mastering the Art of Mastery
- Kaldera, Raven – Kneeling In Spirit
- Kaldera, Raven – Hell on Wheels
- Kaldera, Raven – Mastering Mind
- Kaldera, Raven – Broken Toys
- 💖 📚 Kaldera, Raven and Tenpenny, Joshua – Real Service – read my review here
- 💖 kame bat – The Collar – read my review here
- 📚 Kindle, Machele – Manual Creation
- Midori – Wild Side Sex
- Miller, Philip – Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns
- Parker, Christina – Where I Am Led
- Reilly, Shannon – The Submissive Activity Book
- Rinella, Jack – Partners in Power
- Roberts, Ignixia – Kinktionary
- Rubel, Robert – Master/slave Mastery: protocols
- 💖 Rubel, Robert – Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook
- Rubel, Robert – Master/slave Relations
- Rubel, Robert – BDSM Mastery: Relationships
- Stone, Devyn – A Quick Reference Guide to the Areas of Control
- Taromino, Tristan – Ultimate Guide to Kink
- 💖 📚 Tenpenny, Joshua ed. – Learning in Submission
- Varrin, Claudia – Erotic Surrender
- Warren, John – The Loving Dominant
- Williams, Dan & dawn – Hearts & Collars
- 📚 Williams, Dan & dawn – Living M/s
- Wiseman, Jay – SM 101
Leather
- Baldwin, Guy – Leather Contest Guide
- 💖 Baldwin, Guy – Slavecraft
- Bean, Joseph – Leathersex
- Daniels, Michael – Woof!
- Mains, Geoff – Urban Aboriginals
- Rubel, Robert – Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave
- Townsend, Larry – The Leatherman’s Handbook
- Weal, John D. – The Leatherman’s Protocol Handbook
Historical/Academic
- de Sade, Marquis – Justine, Philosophy in the Bedroom, & Other Writings
- de Sade, Marquis – Philosophy in the Boudoir
- Innes, Brian – The History of Torture
- Ryan, Christopher and Jetha, Cacilda – Sex at Dawn
- Wall, Patrick – Pain: The Science of Suffering
Sex
- Camphause, Rufus C. – Encyclopedia of Sacred Sexuality
- 💖 Carrellas, Barbara – Urban Tantra
- Danielou, Alain – The Complete Kama Sutra
- Dempsey, Bobbie – The Everything Tantric Sex Book
- Lee, Jiz – Coming Out Like a Porn Star
- Richardson, Diana – Tantric Orgasm for Women
Relationships
- 💖 📚 Easton, Dossie and Hardy, Janet – The Ethical Slut
- Labriola, Kathy – Love in Abundance
- Labirola, Kathy – The Jealousy Workbook
- Linessen, Leonie – Love Unlimited
- Sheff, Elisabeth – When Someone You Love is Polyamorous